When couples tell me they feel disconnected, I almost never hear them describe a dramatic turning point. There usually isn't a single argument they can point to or a particular moment when everything changed. Instead, they describe a slow shift that happened so gradually they barely noticed it while it was taking place. As conversations became more practical and schedules became fuller, the responsibilities of building a life together crowded out the kind of conversations the

I think we sometimes ask something impossible of long marriages. We compare the relationship we have today with the one we experienced during a season of life that no longer exists.

Most couples assume that if they could just stop arguing, everything else would fall into place.

Most resilient marriages are built in small, repeated interactions that slowly shape the emotional climate of a relationship over time.

A few of the most common myths I see couples carrying into long-term relationships.

In strong, connected marriages, partners become a kind of home base for each other. Your body knows, I’m not alone in this.

Investing in your marriage improves every part of your lives.